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The Inside Out Christian

The Inside Out Christian

I don’t know about you, but I watch a lot of Pixar Movies… A LOT! This might have been true to a certain extent earlier in my life. But now that I have a two-year-old, Pixar movies are a constant on my television. One of the first words usually out of my son’s mouth in the morning is “Buzz?” As in, Buzz Lightyear, one of the heroes of the Toy Story series. My son does have a Buzz Lightyear action figure, but usually, when he mentions the name he is requesting that he be able to watch one of the Toy Stories… Lucky for his parents there are 3 such stories, with a future fourth installment to be released next summer. This way we can cycle through these movies without getting too bored…

I’d say that he is a fan of most of the Pixar library, but he does not like the rats in Ratatouille, so that movie is not a favorite. He also likes Nemo from Finding Nemo, but he gets scared of certain parts, so that movie doesn’t last long. But his favorite from the non-Toy Story Pixar’s movies is by far the movie Inside Out.

Inside Out is a very thought-provoking movie, and the fact that it is considered a kid’s movie is kind of dumbfounding. The basic premise of the movie is that we are given an inside look into an eleven-year-old girl’s head. Her name is Riley.  The different emotions that Riley experiences are represented by avatars. The main character is Joy, who shares the controls of Riley with 4 other emotions: Sadness, Disgust, Fear, and Anger (my son’s favorite). When one emotion seems to be in control of the present situation, they “take the controls”. When Riley’s parents try to feed her broccoli for the first time, Disgust is there to save her from eating the revolting vegetable. When her dad tells her that she won’t get dessert until the broccoli gets eaten, Anger takes over the controls and lashes out by throwing a tantrum. And so on, and so forth. The question that even small children can glean from this movie is, “Who is driving me right now? Who is at my controls? Am I being driven by my Anger? Am I doing what I am doing because of fear? Am I experiencing sadness when I should be experiencing joy?” These are pretty big ideas for a kid’s movie to be asking.

But I think the movie does bring up a good point, one that we as Christians should be asking ourselves. Who is driving us? Of course, we all have these same emotions, but determining which emotion is driving you is not always the relevant question. The emotions displayed in the movie get along with each other for the most part. But I would contend that there are only 2 forces that are fighting for the controls inside a Christian, and they do not get along! Who’s driving you? It’s either the old Adam or the new Man!

I think that nowhere else in the Scriptures or perhaps in the whole world is this internal struggle more defined than by Paul in the seventh chapter of Romans:

Romans 7:15-19   15 For what I am doing, I do not understand. For what I will to do, that I do not practice; but what I hate, that I do.  16 If, then, I do what I will not to do, I agree with the law that it is good.  17 But now, it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells in me.  18 For I know that in me (that is, in my flesh) nothing good dwells; for to will is present with me, but how to perform what is good I do not find.  19 For the good that I will to do, I do not do; but the evil I will not to do, that I practice.

Paul describes this internal struggle he has that we can all relate to. We know what God’s Word tells us. We all know what we should be doing and what we should not be doing. And yet, how often we end up still doing what is contrary to God’s Law? Why is this the case? We all know that Jesus Christ went to the cross and suffered and died for our sins. We know that because Jesus did this, and we have faith and believe that He did this for me, that I will go to heaven. And yet, we don’t always live like this is the case. We don’t understand! What we will do, what we should be doing, we end up not doing. Instead, we do the very thing that we hate! We want to do good, not because doing good earns us salvation, but because we are thankful for what Jesus first did. We want to do good for Jesus, and yet, we often end up doing evil! What is going on with us? Paul concludes O wretched man that I am! Who will deliver me from this body of death? ( Romans 7:24)

The fact of the matter is that we do have two, different driving forces inside of us all. There is the old Adam, the sinful flesh. And then there is the new Man, the regenerated by baptism member of God’s family. These two forces are always fighting inside of us. They both want the “controls”. They are both us. You can’t simply blame the old man, it’s still you. We will one day go to heaven because we have that new Man inside of us, but on the other hand, we will never be without the old Adam this side of heaven. These two forces don’t get along, they are always fighting inside us.  Galatians 5:17  17 For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish. How can you make sure that your new Man is at your controls?

Let’s go back to when this “war” first began. When we were born, it was in a state of deadness. Many people think that all children are innocent and sweet. This is not what the Bible says. We just saw Romans 7:18 For I know that in me (that is, in my flesh) nothing good dwells Paul was not speaking of just himself, that statement applies to all people. There is none who does good, not one (Rom 3:10-12). All had sinned and fallen short of the glory of God (Rom 3.23). Before we were baptized, we were dead in trespasses and sins. We were, by nature, children of wrath! (Eph 2:1-3)

This also becomes apparent when you become a parent. My son likes the anger character. He thinks he is funny when he explodes. But I think he also relates to this character as well. My son also reacts like this. Often, this anger is directed at his parents. He is only 2, but his sinful nature is at the controls just as much as the rest of us.

And that is where the new Man comes in. The new Man is called “new” for a reason. He was not always there. Rather the new Man came into the picture when we were baptized. This baptism that brought about the new Man also meant the subsequent death of the old Adam.

Romans 6:4-6 Therefore we were buried with Him through baptism into death, that just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, even so we also should walk in newness of life.  5 For if we have been united together in the likeness of His death, certainly we also shall be in the likeness of His resurrection,  6 knowing this, that our old man was crucified with Him, that the body of sin might be done away with, that we should no longer be slaves of sin.

And there you have it! We were baptized, the old man was killed, and the new Man replaced him. The problem is that he makes a comeback.

Since we are talking about movies, I would like to discuss movie genres. I think I have seen many different movies. But I have not watched many horror movies. I have never cared much for the genre. It is my opinion that I would rather laugh or cry from a movie than experience fear in one. While I have not seen many of these movies, even I know their clichés. They always seem to feature a master villain, someone who is always one step ahead of the characters we care about. These villains cannot simply be killed. Just when you think they are gone, BOOM, they pop out of nowhere. They always come back. How else could they make sequels?

The old Adam is the ultimate horror villain. He has been killed, yet he always comes back! No matter how many times we kill him, he always finds a way to linger and survive.

In the Catechism, Martin Luther wrote about this when he addressed the meaning of baptism. “It means that the old Adam in us should be drowned by daily contrition and repentance and die with all sins and evil desires. It also means that a new Man should daily appear and arise, who lives eternally before God in righteousness and purity.” Luther stressed that we kill our old Adam and drown him with contrition and repentance every day!

How does your old Adam look? We can never get rid of him completely, but we still need to put him through the ringer constantly. Don’t make it easy for him to take over! Does your old Adam look healthy and strong, or is he haggard and feeble? Is he cozy and dry, or is he soaking wet and paranoid about what the new Man will do to him today?

This is a battle that is worth fighting every, single day. As Paul said in Romans 7, more often than not the old Man not only survives but thrives! Sure, we might drown him here and there, perhaps on Sunday mornings. But what about the middle of the week? Is he comfortable and at the controls for most of your week? What about at work, who’s in control there? What about at school? What person do your family and friends know best? The New You or the Old You?

How can we make sure our new Man is at the controls? Ephesians 4:22-24   22 that you put off, concerning your former conduct, the old man which grows corrupt according to the deceitful lusts,  23 and be renewed in the spirit of your mind,  24 and that you put on the new man which was created according to God, in true righteousness and holiness.

This new Man that we are to put on, we can’t do it by ourselves. We need God’s Holy Spirit to work this in us! We are reminded of that when we read God’s Word, when we study it in our homes and when we worship Him in our Churches. When we are left to ourselves, we are powerless against our flesh (and our other enemies for that matter). But when we look to God, He is able to overcome in us and through us! This Spirit worked new Man does not live for itself as the flesh did. It lives for God! 2 Corinthians 5:15  15 and He died for all, that those who live should live no longer for themselves, but for Him who died for them and rose again.  Jesus died that we might live. We do live for Him! It’s not because we are great people, we still carry around that horror supervillain who appears constantly. No, rather we love Jesus because He first loved us! (1 John 4:19)

Dear Christians, let us live inside out! When we have the new Man inside at the controls, then we can live the outside Christian lives that are God-pleasing. This seems like an impossible task, given that the old Man can and will creep back without a moment’s notice. How can we rid ourselves of him? With daily repentance and contrition! OK, well how can we accomplish those things? By being reminded through the Word and Sacrament what Jesus did to make us children of God! We are God’s new creation through the means of Grace, and we shall be His forever. The old Adam always comes back, but he shall be permanently sunk when the Savior returns. Jesus is the one who will deliver us from this body of death!  May we always look forward to this, when our new Man will rest with Jesus!

He that believes and is baptized Shall see the Lord’s salvation;

Baptized into the death of Christ, He is a new creation.

Through Christ’s redemption he shall stand Among the glorious heavenly band

Of every tribe and nation. – TLH 301

Pornography – In our Heart and At our Fingertips

Pornography – In our Heart and At our Fingertips

What is Pornography?
Pornography has many definitions depending on the person who wants to define it. Generally, pornography is defined as “printed or visual material containing the explicit description or display of sexual organs or activity, intended to stimulate erotic rather than aesthetic or emotional feelings.”[1] From this definition one can see how prevalent pornography may be accessed from TV’s to tablets, from movie’s to magazines, or from cell phones to any computer.
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A Reality Check
How prevalent is pornography?  Statistics show that nearly three-quarters of young adults (71%) and half of teens (50%) come across what they consider to be porn at least once a month, whether they are seeking it or not. It is also reported that 62% of teens and young adults have received a sexually explicit image and 41% have sent one (usually from/to their boy/girlfriend or friend). When they talk about porn with friends, 89% of teens, and 95% of young adults say they do so in a neutral, accepting, or encouraging way. That is, only one in 20 young adults and one in 10 teens say their friends think viewing pornography is a bad thing.  Despite the awareness of the problem, most churches do not have programs specifically designed to assist those struggling with porn use. [2]
Is Pornography Sinful?
The Greek word “eros” is the origin and basic root word for our English word eroticism or erotic.  The meaning of this word is to express love in a sensual or physical way, often igniting some level of sexual arousal. Eros was the name of the imaginary Greek god of love who was thought to be quite mischievous. We might think of our modern day Cupid who more playfully inflicts lust on an individual.  But when one searches God’s Word, the word “eros” isn’t found. In fact, when this physical/sexual love is expressed on its own, outside of God’s definition of a marriage, God uses a different word to describe the activity as “pornaia” (English “porn”).
Examine how God places this in the obvious “works of the flesh.”
“Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality,  idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions,  envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.” [Galatians 5:19-21]
Notice what other sins are listed with “sexual immorality.” In fact, the first three listed each point in one way or another to sinful lust.  “Impurity” can be defined as impure motives or thoughts. “Sensuality” or lasciviousness, can be understood as unrestrained or unbridled lust.  In looking at this particular list of sins, someone might ask why are some of these sins listed acceptable in our society, while others are not?  It’s NOT about what is socially acceptable, but what is acceptable and unacceptable to our Almighty God.  Pornography would fall into this same category of “pornaia” (the actual Greek word used here, meaning sexual immorality), whether actually committing the sexual acts or watching the sexual acts committed.  Jesus clearly demonstrated this when He spoke about the 6th Commandment in His Sermon on the Mount, [Matthew 5:28]
“But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”
In further teaching about adultery and sexual immorality Jesus quotes, as always, with His divine authority from Genesis 2:24,
“Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female… ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” [Matthew 19:4-6]
Jesus’ teaching about the unity of “one flesh” is very critical to understanding true sexual morality. “One flesh” means that within God’s institution of marriage, a man or woman is permitted and blessed by God to only have sexual intimacy with his wife or her husband (this is His wedding gift to the couple).  Sexual activity outside of the bond of a married couple is the sinful act of adultery. Sexual activity of the unmarried is called fornication.  God is clear, both adultery and fornication are sinful and against His holy law.
But is Pornography sinful, if you’re thinking of your Spouse?
It is helpful if men and women are reminded that marriage between a husband and wife is to be patterned after Christ’s relationship with the church. Since Christ would never “cheat” on the church, and since sinful man’s idolatry is often described as spiritual adultery, this question might be appropriate:
“When the Israelites were worshiping false gods like Baal and Molech, [Ezekiel 23:36-38] would God have been okay with it if they simply said to Him, ‘We were only thinking of you Lord’?”
This very thing happened when Aaron made the golden calf.
“So when Aaron saw it, he built an altar before it.  And Aaron made a proclamation and said, ‘Tomorrow is a feast to the LORD.’”  [Exodus 32:5]
The LORD was furious that they gave all the credit of His deliverance from their Egyptian slave owners to a golden calf they had just made, and then said they were worshipping the LORD!?!  Likewise, if a husband or wife says he or she is thinking about their spouse while watching porn (or even watching it together), what’s the point of the porn?  Either the spouse is good enough and the sole source of the desire, or they’re not. When pornography is being used he or she isn’t becoming excited by their spouse, but by the images/videos of another man or woman.
In a similar illustration, would a man be okay if his wife was bathing and some other man was ‘thinking about his own wife’ while watching the man’s wife bathe?  If a man were thinking about your wife while touching himself or someone else, would that make it alright?  In the same way, if a husband or wife was thinking about his or her spouse while gazing at the private parts of another man or woman, does that make it OK in God’s eyes? Since the fall into sin (Genesis 3), there’s a reason why we call them “private parts”. When our eyes see something that they shouldn’t, we pray the Lord would remind us in that moment, “That’s not yours to see.”
“…the lust of the eyes . . . is not from the Father, but is from the world.” [1 John 2:16]
“Sheol and Abaddon are never satisfied, Nor are the eyes of man ever satisfied.” [Proverbs 27:20]
No matter how the man or woman tries to justify his or her lustful thoughts, the Word of God is clear that it is sinful (pornaia = sexually not moral).  This includes pornography.  After giving a list of immoral choices to the Romans, Paul writes:
“Though they know God’s righteous decree that those who practice such things deserve to die, they not only do them but give approval to those who practice them.” [Romans 1:32]
Sin is serious!  We need to be reminded, by watching pornography an individual is also giving approval to those who are practicing sexual immorality.  This even includes those involved in producing the pornography. From Paul’s words, God holds the ones approving of it just as accountable as the ones actually engaging in the act.
Do we Dress for Sexual Success?
Just like we pray for the Lord “to lead us NOT into temptation,” it would be hypocritical for us to lead others into temptation with what we wear. If we are to dress with modesty, [1 Timothy 2:9] how in the world could we excuse something as immodest as pornography?
Is Pornography MORE than a Spiritual Issue?
Studies continue to show how porn destroys not only relationships and marriages, but “physically” men of all ages with porn-induced sexual problems, including ED (erectile dysfunction). Similar studies show the same kind of adverse effects in women also. Pornography confuses the dopamine chemicals in the brain which has a wide range of important functions throughout the body. Pornographic media creates multiple neurological “partners” that further desensitize the brain both emotionally and physically against a “normal” relationship. Porn is filmed showcasing next-to-impossible relationships and creating unreasonable expectations. [3]
God unites a man and woman as “one flesh” and the undivided sexual activity between a husband and wife is the blessed result of a God-gifted closeness. Pornography simply put, promotes and glorifies the physical act without the closeness.
How does God teach us to respond to Pornography?
In reading this, you may be responding to a friend or relative that has asked you questions or made statements about pornography, or you may be trying to navigate your own struggles with it.  In either case, it is important that we aren’t swayed with what the world and Satan are teaching us, but rather follow what our God teaches us!
“Flee also youthful lusts; but pursue righteousness, faith, love, peace with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.” [2 Timothy 2:22]
In Christ, there is forgiveness and strength. In 1 Corinthians 6:20, the Apostle Paul reminds each of us that “You were bought at a price” (with the blood of Christ = you, your body, is God’s), and in chapter 7:4 that “your body is not your own” but your spouse’s).  Therefore, we are reminded to “fight the good fight of faith,” to “pray without ceasing,” and remember wars aren’t fought alone or won overnight.  So Paul encourages,roads
“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” [Phil. 4:13]
In fighting lust, talk to your spouse, or a trusted Christian friend or Pastor for help. Pray, pray, and give thanks for Christ’s strength in weakness!
Other available resources:

  • http://www.conquerorsthroughchrist.net/
  • “Every Man’s Battle” by Fred Stoeker
  • Accountability software: https://covenanteyes.com/
  • https://store.opendns.com/familyshield/setup/router
  • http://marripedia.org/pornography_objectifies_women
  • http://microsite.frc.org/get.cfm?i=RS09K01

[1] Oxford Dictionaries · © Oxford University Press
[2] Barna Report Stats: http://www.barna.com/the-porn-phenomenon/#.V87fnSgrKUn
[3] http://yourbrainonporn.com/